Jaime: If It’s Hysterical, It’s Historical.

In Be authentic, Human behavior, Relationships on 01/09/2014 at 3:43 pm

Jaime, actor, teacher and friend extraordinaire (he’s in Glee! – The Movie), has been a wealth of information over the past several months.

Last weekend, during a moment of crisis, he said something so profound to me over the phone that really struck a chord:

“If it’s hysterical, it’s historical.”

He went onto explain that if we have a reaction to something that is overreactive, makes us jump to conclusions, forces us into making assumptions, or if your walls go up, it’s never in response to what’s going on in that present moment. It is triggering a past experience that made us feel bad, and we bring that experience into the present and create a disaster in the moment.

For example:
– I hate avocados.
– If I were to see avocados in my salad and start yelling at the server for bringing me avocados, it doesn’t have anything to do with the server.
– It has to do with the fact that I was forced to eat avocados as a kid, even when I hated them, and I’m bringing that awful memory to the present, and taking it out on the avocado server.

If it’s hysterical, it’s historical. Thanks, Jaime, for this reasonable way to approach these situations in the future. I needed this drastic shift in paradigm.

Crister: Eye Cream, People! Eye Cream!

In Beauty, Health, Super Helpful Info on 09/14/2013 at 10:19 pm

I met Crister at a Phonatics Tweetup several years ago. We’re Asian, so we both like pho. Go figure.

The first thing everyone notices about Crister is how beautiful she is. Then, you notice how intelligent and well-spoken and kind she is. The conversation usually goes something like this:

The rest of us: “You are stunningly beautiful. What’s your secret?”

Crister: “I’m ____ years old (insert her age here, which makes no sense since she looks 20, so how could she look 20 years younger than her actual age? Anyhow.) I drink lots of water, and I always, always use eye cream! Now, should we discuss diplomacy efforts with North Korea?”

Well, recently on Facebook, she shared an article put out by Real Simple and was kind enough to add her brand secrets to the mix.


Here’s hoping for the rest of us and our potential fountain of youth!

Chris: Productivity Apps.

In Organization, Strategy, Super Helpful Info on 03/13/2013 at 10:15 pm

I met Chris when we both were on a social media panel at SES NY a couple of years ago.

On Facebook today, Chris posted a link to “21 Tools for Maximizing Productivity” – which included awesome apps like Boomerang and Rapportive. But I was looking for something that’d keep me from automatically opening Facebook every 30 seconds.

And there it was:

Procrastinator – a Chrome extension, and exactly what I was looking for.

Whenever I (habitually) open a new tab to Facebook during work hours, it shows me this obnoxious screen:

ImageProcrastinator, you are one mean app. I can tell we’re going to get along splendidly.


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